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Sex Ask Jane By Jane Doe April 24, 2006 San Diego--You gotta love wacky surveys. I just got one in my inbox. Here’re some of the questions, along with my answers: Oddest thing you want to do but haven’t yet: Hold a monkey in my arms Music no one would ever guess you listen to: Harry Belafonte Your most unrealistic fear: Being eaten by a phantom shark in the pool
I’ve received a lot of spam emails on penis enlargement techniques. Do any of these really work? I’d be willing to put down some serious cash if they did. (Carl, OB) Sorry Carl, there are no miracles here. There are four main types of penis enlargement techniques on the market: pumps, topical treatments, supplements and surgery. Most are completely bogus. The pumps attempt to enlarge the penis by drawing more blood into the organ, much the way a tourniquet works. Sounds fun, huh? Pumping will make the penis look larger immediately afterward. However, the increase in size is short lived and the procedure can easily lead to ruptured blood vessels, permanent damage and impotence. If you ask me, a small penis is better than a broken one any day of the week. The topical stuff includes creams, lotions and gels and does absolutely nothing except enlarge their sellers’ bank accounts—the potions are harmless, but useless. The supplements are usually herbals. They do nothing for size and may carry blood pressure and heart attack risks. The surgery is intended to add girth by injecting collagen into the penis. The procedure does thicken the penis, but many men find the collagen turns lumpy and misshapen within a year. This is a painful way of potentially turning into Frankenpenis. Instead of worrying about your penis size, focus on the rest of the package: Get fit, develop hobbies, have a stellar oral technique. Basically be a great catch--size won’t matter. What do you think of a caring, compassionate relationship that is built on BDSM principals? I am a dominant male and will only have relationships where my partner is totally submissive. I do, however, want to include love, warmth, and do not wish to abuse a partner. Is this possible in your opinion? I think it is, but friends have told me no way. (Roper, 29) I think this is very possible. I see BDSM as another lifestyle choice, just as some couples choose to have children, others choose swinging, and others multiple careers. None of these lifestyles is really any different than the other in success or morality. Any lifestyle will work for a relationship if both partners want the lifestyle and can come up with the boundaries and ground rules. You’ll need to be very upfront with potential partners, as BDSM isn’t for everyone. Don’t try to convince anyone. You’ll find a woman (I’m going on the assumption you’re looking for a woman.) who is interested when you mention this and you can go from there. I have met quite a lot of BDSM people. They’re out there—they just don’t advertise themselves. (continued) 1 | 2 Suggested Vyuz reading... Who is Jane Doe? | By Larry Knowles Steve York, UCSD student pornographer, chooses law over porn | By Larry Knowles The bare facts about Brazilian waxing | By Romina Cleary What pilots look for in airports, women | By Rob Potochnik What we Asians want to be called isn't always what we call each other | By Phil Wang |
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